Intimacy and Sexuality
Love is a broad spectrum of different emotional and physical states, from pure virtue or idealism, the highest personal level of well-being, to the easiest basic pleasure. It is a state that encompasses all of our experiences and thoughts, and is often difficult for even the most evolved individuals to identify. This article intends to provide some insight into love so that you may develop it yourself.
As love develops over time, it is shaped by two main factors. One is an intrinsic desire for attachment with others and, as such, it tends towards self-gratification. The other factor is a desire to experience deep emotional intimacy. This manifests as feelings of anxiety, fear and insecurity. The first drives love towards others and the latter drives love towards intimacy. The two are not mutually exclusive; in fact, they often work side-by-side.
When love is formed with another person through a form of attachment – such as sexual attachment, infatuation or romance – it is often reciprocated in kind. In situations where this is the only form of attachment established, reciprocity is fairly easy to discern. However, in most cases of non-reproduction, the only thing we are sure of is that two people feel emotionally connected to each other. It is then only natural that these feelings are also directed at each other.
Love between two people is normally a two-way street. The intensity of feelings experienced on both sides is usually very different, although not necessarily completely different from one another. Both parties may be experiencing deep psychological feelings of love for the other, or may just be basing those feelings on physical attraction. One common sign of a developing relationship is that the parties often find themselves behaving like lovers rather than mere friends. This is because they are experiencing deep connection and bonding with each other.
Love that is developed between two people usually includes both parties feeling emotionally connected to and attached to each other. These feelings often transcend their sexual desires and become feelings of real love and friendship. This is not to say that lust and love are mutually exclusive things. On the contrary, love and lust can often complement and enhance each other. However, there is a big difference between being sexually attracted to another person and developing a healthy relationship. When love encompasses more than sex is merely an expression of that emotion.
Developing intimacy and closeness with another person, first as a playful, romantic gesture, and then becoming more oriented to feelings of friendship and trust, may lead to the development of deeper and more authentic emotional attachments. This would then lend itself to the development of deeper interactions and bonds. A healthy relationship – one that is not primarily sexual in nature – fosters the growth of more meaningful connections, as well as personal satisfaction, which in turn has many positive health benefits. Couples who experience this kind of bonding are less likely to develop unhealthy sexual attachments and are more likely to find lasting happiness and fulfillment.