We all love something in our lives. It could be a person, a place, or an idea. The important thing is that love encompasses a wide range of positive and powerful psychological and emotional states, from a purest form of ethical goodness, the most intense personal spiritual experience, to the easiest, most pleasurable physical pleasure. Regardless of which state we find most fulfilling in life, it is important to remember that love does not need to be confined to one’s private feelings or private actions. In fact, a loving relationship reaches beyond the barriers of gender, age, race, or culture.
In fact, many people forget the power of love and how it can change the world around them. A recent workshop I attended featured a discussion on how adding physical touch to your relationship can increase its intimacy and sensuality. participants included a lesbian couple who had been married for 23 years and were beginning to feel like their love was not strong enough anymore; they felt like their passion was slipping away, and felt guilty and empty when they thought no one was being intimate with them. Their workshop suggested ways they could add intimacy and sensuality to their relationship by sharing a towel or a brush as a way to share physical contact.
Another workshop offered by motivational speakers and relationship experts included a discussion on how to say yes to something else in your relationship. It seemed that this was a common theme among participants, as everyone said yes to being with their partner, even if it was just having dinner together once in awhile. What’s interesting about saying yes to something else, is that it helps you remain present with the other person in the relationship. Instead of becoming fixated on the activity itself, you are able to experience the activity more fully and become engaged and present in what is happening.
A third workshop discussed how falling into the same pattern again is damaging to relationships. It is common for people in long term relationships to fall into the same pattern repeatedly. After a while, they feel like they have to repeat the same patterns in order to maintain attraction and passion in their relationship. They feel like they have to say yes to every request put forth by their partner and become the same as them. In one workshop, a couple was having trouble communicating with one another and it was evident that they were not communicating with each other in a way that was appealing to them. After some contemplation, the couples realized that it was probably something else that was holding them back from being more open and expressive with one another.
These are just three of the examples found in the above paragraphs. Each of these examples is a great example of how romantic relationships are built on openness and communication. Love does not mean you have to have an open heart and an open mind all of the time. Love does not mean you have to give up your privacy and feelings in order to be with your partner on a romantic relationship.
In order to find your own unique love style, you need to experiment with a variety of different brain regions. This can be done quite easily by using an fMRI scan or a pyschotic EEG scanning device. The EEG works by mapping brain waves of individuals. The left and right side of the brain typically have different wave patterns that indicate different things. By using these methods, it is possible to see which brain regions are working in different ways. Then, by playing with these brain regions in the right way, it is possible to alter the way that the individual feels, thinks, and behaves when they are in romantic relationships.